The Best FTM Sex Toys: Trans, Queer and LGBTQ+ Sex Toys Designed for You
The best FTM sex toys are the ones built for this anatomy from the start, not adapted from something else. This is our guide to what we make and who each piece is for — strokers, pumps, packers, vibes, pack-and-play dildos and harnesses. Everything here works on bodies with or without HRT.
New York Toy Collective exists because the products we wanted did not. Nothing on this page is accidentally inclusive. It was designed for queer sex on purpose. Est. New York, 2012.
Solo play
Strokers
A stroker is a soft, textured sleeve sized for a t-dick rather than shrunk down from something else. Jack is ours: ribbed silicone, and a packer the rest of the day. Wear it, then use it.
Put a bullet vibe inside Jack if you want more. The cavity takes one.
Trans masc pumps
Our most-returned-to product, and the one we get the most mail about. Under a pump, blood flow rises in the tissue. During a session it swells past its usual size, and afterward you get engorgement, warmth and heightened sensation. Plenty of people pump before using a stroker for exactly that reason.
Our cylinders are molded for bottom-growth anatomy rather than repurposed from a nipple pump, and the walls are see-through, so nothing in a session is hidden. Three models:
- Trans Masc Pump 2.0 — manual, one cylinder, the simplest way in.
- Trans Masc Pump Deluxe — manual, three cylinder sizes plus measuring stickers for a fit you can dial in.
- Trans Masc Pro Pump — electric, push-button, digital kPa gauge, waterproof, USB-C. The one to get if squeezing a bulb is hard on your hands.
Warm up first, use lube, start low and short. The full walkthrough is in how to start pumping, and the background is in our bottom growth guide.
Bullet vibes
The most useful thing in the drawer. The OG Bullet is small, quiet, waterproof, rechargeable and travel-locked so it does not go off in your bag. The Silicone Bullet is the same idea in a softer shell.
It works anywhere on the body, pairs with every other toy here, and slots into the Explorer harness's pleasure pocket. More setups: the bullet vibe guide.
Packers, with a vibe underneath
For a lot of people, looking down and seeing a cock is the whole point. A soft packer with a bullet vibe underneath it is a combination people find on their own and then write to tell us about. Jack does the same job with the vibe inside instead.
Partner play
Pack-and-play dildos
Not all dildos are built for this. Shilo was designed to be worn under clothing all day and then used, which is a harder brief than it sounds.
- Worn discreetly in your pants, all day if you want
- Posable, so it can start soft and be angled when you are ready
- Curved head for G-spot and P-spot stimulation
- Body-safe silicone, handmade in small batches
- Blowjobs, grinding, pegging, penetration
Shilo has been our best-selling dildo for over a decade. If you want more presence and more weight, Carter is the bigger sibling. How the category works: pack and play dildos, explained.
Harnesses
The Joque by SpareParts is a jockstrap-style harness built for control, stability and endurance. You can wear it under your boxers and stay ready, or slip a toy through the fly. It is the one people upgrade to and stop shopping.
Our own Signature Leather Harness is handmade in small batches and breaks in like a good boot. The Explorer is the vegan option, with the pleasure pocket for a bullet. Sizing and fit: the harness guide.
If you would rather have the whole thing worked out for you, the strap-on sets are matched so the toy, the O-ring and the harness fit together out of the box.
Where to start
| If you want | Start with |
|---|---|
| One toy that does the most | OG Bullet |
| Something to wear and use | Jack |
| Sensation and ritual, solo | Trans Masc Pump 2.0 |
| To pack every day | A packer, or Shilo for pack-and-play |
| Partner play, first time | A beginner strap-on set |
Everything we make carries a One-Year Maker's Warranty and ships in a plain, unmarked box.
Frequently asked questions
What are the best FTM sex toys to start with?
A bullet vibe and one thing you can wear. The OG Bullet pairs with everything else you buy later, and a packer or Jack gives you something that works in and out of the bedroom.
Do these work without testosterone?
Yes. Our cylinders, strokers and packers are sized for this anatomy pre-T and post-T.
What is the difference between a packer and a pack-and-play?
A packer is for wearing. A pack-and-play like Shilo is built to be worn and then used. Full comparison: packer versus pack-and-play.
What lube should I use?
Water-based, with anything silicone. See best lube for silicone toys.
