How to Choose Your First Packer: An FTM Beginner's Guide
Picking your first packer can feel like a lot - here's how to narrow it down without overthinking it.
Soft, firm, or pack-and-play?
Soft packers are the most comfortable for all-day wear and the most discreet. Pack-and-play options (like Jack) let you wear it by day and use it for play. STPs (like Sam) let you stand to pee, pack, and - with some - play too.
What size should I start with?
Smaller and lighter is usually better for a first packer: it sits more naturally and is easier to keep in place. You can always size up later once you know what feels right.
How do I keep it in place?
A packing pouch, packing underwear, or an adjustable packing strap holds it securely so you can move, sit, and go about your day without adjusting. This matters more than the packer itself for comfort.
Real talk
Your first packer rarely has to be your forever packer. Start simple, see how it feels, and adjust. There's no wrong way to do this.
Common questions
Packer vs pack-and-play vs STP? Packer = wear it. Pack-and-play = wear and play. STP = wear, pee standing, and (some) play.
How do I clean it? Soap and warm water for silicone; rinse STPs after each use.
Will it show through clothes? A modest size in proper packing underwear sits naturally and stays discreet.
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